Yes, just as the title goes, I am sick when the weather is beautiful. Flowers started to bloom. Really nice. Bonnie was not well as I told in my other post. On Friday, I started to feel not so good. Started with Headache. Every time I move around a bit, my head started banging. Sent Bonnie to my mother in law. Then I was in bed for the whole day. Was really terrible.
In the evening of Friday, my mother in law called my husband, saying that she took Bonnie to the doctor without telling either me or my husband and then said that Bonnie had to go to the hospital and stay overnight for an infusion. I was furious. She didn't even bother to tell us the parents that she was taking Bonnie to see the doctor. Bonnie was just feeling better on Thursday and started eating then. Of course the body started to heal slowly. Good intention but big interference. I know some of you might think, "what's wrong with that? she just sent her to the hospital. " For your info,this was not the only incident of not thinking that we are the parents regardless of anything, but many before. This was the last straw, I didn't send my daughter to find out that I can't see my daughter till the next day. I never slept away from her. And to expect a little respect that I'm the mother so I would know at least. Nope. She loves my daughter to bits, but just can't see that I'm still the mother or the son's the father.
So for these 2 days we had to take Bonnie to the hospital to and fro to get her blood checked. I really think Hungarian hospital system sucks. This one had no proper waiting room, no number system. So if there's 20-30 people waiting, you have to go ask around who the one before you.
And I don't understand why every time they have to give long letters. My husband said that the doctor wrote long letters just stating everything was normal. We had to wait for about 5 minutes for her to finish typing the letter.
They took Bonnie's blood. I nearly fainted looking at the way they did it. They had to poke and poke because they stuck the needle the wrong way, so no blood came out. Bonnie was screaming and crying. They didn't allow us to go at first saying that we need to wait for the results in case Bonnie needs to be admitted. We refused because who would want to wait in a place with no proper waiting room further, even if we refused to let Bonnie stay there, they can't stop either. Then the Doctor let us go advising not to go around sick people. Duhhhh.... we were in the hospital you dope. Full of sick people and if you don't want us to be where sick people are, the hospital is the last place to be.
Yesterday was the last time we went to take Bonnie to the hospital, Bonnie already started crying when we put her on the bed already expecting what to come next. Now waiting for the results. Bonnie is herself already. Eating properly as usual. I have nothing much against doctors. But, Bonnie vomiting and having fever was not something new. If she started to become better, it is best to let the body heal itself at it's own pace. That's my "jungle Malaysian" opinion. What ever "High tech Hungarian" might feel, I don't like my daughter to be poked with needles every time she is sick. There are medicines we gave her those, if it prolonged then we would worry but she showed recovery.
My mil thought that I might be dumb. I took care of my daughter alone from the time she was born. My mother wasn't around to help me or to show me. I read books on it. I may not be an expert or even good at it but at least respect that I am the mother and give me choice to how I would care. Just because I didn't choose to send her to the doctor every time her temperature goes up 1 degree doesn't mean I care for her less and she loves my daughter more. You know what she said to me time and time again, "you are in Hungary do how Hungarians do. " I didn't see Hungarian do the Malaysian things back in Malaysia. This is an advice from some one who lives among her own people, her own race for all her life.
How do people handle mother in laws like this? who puts you down every time? Is it really true that Mother in laws and daughter in laws can never get along? (this is what she said to, I can imagine how she was with her own ex-mil. The old lady asked her to call her mother, but my mil refused. Would rather call her ex-mil by name)
I'm just letting some steam off. Being in a country with totally different language is one thing, but living among people who gets the idea that you are dumb because you can't really speak the language is another.
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Though on their website, it is a suggestion for a Valentine's greeting card. But I imagine it would be nice to send such a card with a wedding picture on it as a Thank You card for attending the wedding. The picture can be the latest favourite wedding picture of the bride and groom. Not only it works as a perfect Thank you card but also as a momento for those who attended the wedding. Priceless.
